Or "What do you do?" might be more suitable, because after all, isn't what we "do" who we are? I mean, when I first meet someone, the first thing I do is exchange names and go right into "What do you do?"
I sometimes struggle with answering that question. Usually the struggle is more intense when I'm feeling like I don't really have a purpose or something "important" that I'm currently involved in like volunteering at school. I mean, who wants to do laundry, clean the cat box and make dinner? Is that what I want my answer to be when someone asks me what I do? Are those things really all that important? Does that make me who I am?
When I was in my early twenties and just finishing college, I was always sure to point out to the people I met that I was a college graduate and that I would have a career in the near future. In the meantime I was making ends meet by working in a retail clothing store and making sandwiches in a sandwich shop. I also worked various jobs with a temporary employment agency. I was a filing clerk, a mail-room worker sorting out and delivering mail at a large corporation, and a receptionist at an insurance company. At the time, I felt "less than" because I didn't have what I thought were important jobs. They were menial. They didn't matter. They were the behind-the-scene support jobs that didn't get recognition. I continued to tell people who asked that I was in the process of looking for a career position and that these jobs were only temporary.
But isn't everything temporary? Each moment--oops!--you just missed it. There goes another one. And another. Time is passing with each breath, never to be experienced again. Really.
You know that career position I was looking for while I was working all those temporary jobs? Well, I found it! And guess what? It was awesome!! Guess what else! It was TEMPORARY! What I mean is that I worked at a wonderful company for six years, and then I quite and got THE best job in the whole world (being a mother), and I don't care anymore if the position I hold is one of status or financial or educational merit. At this particular job I don't get paid, I sometimes think I stink at it, and lots of times I feel totally unappreciated and unwanted. But it's also where I get the meaning of life, and why I get up every day with renewed hope in my future.
What I do temporarily today leads to other things that are temporary today. And that is how we become who we are today. Forget about tomorrow. It will come with all of your today's temporary moments.
So who am I, you ask? Or more accurately, What do I do? I am a person who tries to remember every day that what are my temporary circumstances in life are a constant, and the greatest thing about all of it is that I can change my circumstances and thoughts and attitudes about them in a heartbeat! I also remain thankful and humble that I am able to think and feel and be whatever I want! That's who I am! Who are YOU? Think about it for a moment...........